‘the top 5 regrets of the dying’ = a tool for living

Holstee manifesto

The Guardian recently wrote about Bonnie Ware, an Austalian palliative care nurse who counseled and cared for the dying. Over many conversations with her patients, she heard five main regrets expressing things that they would have done differently. We find that rather than being a downer, they are a big gift, offering great perspective about shifts we might wish to make NOW:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

We find the last one the most striking: that feeling happiness was an option that was often not expressed or felt, though it could have been.

It’s worth reading the whole article, or checking out Ware’s website Inspiration and Chai for deeper rendering of her discoveries. She’s also written a book about them

We think the Holstee Manifesto segues perfectly.

via Open Culture

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3 Responses to ‘the top 5 regrets of the dying’ = a tool for living

  1. Elyse Harrison 02.16.2012 at 10:30am #

    Thank you for this post.
    It is so true.
    I am finally working on a dream project that I thought about in third grade.

    I am 53.

  2. Sally 02.16.2012 at 10:37am #


  3. Noreen Sullivan 02.16.2012 at 8:22pm #

    i printed it and hung it up to remind us. wonderful!

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