Laurie Anderson and Lou Reed: 3 Rules to Live By

In 2015, when Lou Reed was posthumously inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of fame, his wife Laurie Anderson gave a moving and very eloquent acceptance speech. Toward the end, she shared the couple’s really handy…rules to live by…With those three things, you don’t need anything else. Here they are:

I’m reminded also of the three rules we came up with, rules to live by. And I’m just going to tell you what they are because they come in really handy. Because things happen so fast, it’s always good to have a few, like, watchwords to fall back on.

And the first one is: One. Don’t be afraid of anyone. Now, can you imagine living your life afraid of no one?

Two. Get a really good bullshit detector.

And three. Three is be really, really tender.

And with those three things, you don’t need anything else.


They seem way simple at first, but when we try putting them into practice, they prove remarkably powerful…and not that easy. Don’t be afraid of anyone and be really, really tender require dismantling or moving through the fear/shame/armoring…

Sally Schneider/Improvised Life

Sally Schneider/Improvised Life


Read the whole speech here.

via Open Culture; portrait by the great Mary Ellen Mark

One Response to Laurie Anderson and Lou Reed: 3 Rules to Live By

  1. Jim Dillon 07.05.2016 at 8:24am #

    Thank you. Think of a nation of people living by those rules who then acted by those rules as a nation. Oh my goodness.

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