A Secret Balm for Fear and Anxiety

Once, while I was clearing out a storage room in a lonely warehouse building, a friend called me on my cell phone in tears. She told me of the overwhelming fear and anxiety she was feeling about a trip she was about to take that held many potentially difficult situations.

Standing in a storage room amid cardboard boxes and forgotten stuff, I listened and talked and listened, as my friend’s tears gradually subsided. “But, how will I make it through?” she asked. “What will I do if I start to panic on the long flight, or when I am in another time zone, alone?”

I wondered what I could offer right then and there? What would be totally portable, that she could look at any time she needed to, to remind her of other ways of seeing things, the opposite of fear and sadness?

I found myself saying: “Get a pen. Draw a heart in the palm of your hand. It’s a reminder of all the good things you know: possibility and solutions that you can’t imagine now, and most of all, love, and all the people that love and care about you. The heart will be hidden in your hand, and when you need it, all you have to do is open your hand.”

My friend told me she looked at the heart in her hand often in the days that followed. As it faded, she drew it anew. It was her secret message to self, a reminder, drawn with a ballpoint pen.

It amazes me that the idea came to me, standing in that cluttered warehouse storage room where there was nothing tangible to give her.  And that the heart in hand is a very old symbol……Somewhere, that powerful image had lodged in my mind long ago, waiting to be passed on.

I’ve tried it myself, and somehow, it easily becomes the very reminder I need.


3 Responses to A Secret Balm for Fear and Anxiety

  1. Lizi 04.02.2019 at 7:05am #

    Love this!

    I do this with my Hypnotattoo. I am a remedial hypnotist and tattoo artist and I have pioneered an aproach to healing reminders on the skin. I do the tattoos in hypnotic trance and embed a hypnotic anchor, a reminder of a positive affirmation directly into the tattoo. So whenever my clients touch these special little tattoos they are reminded in their subconscious of the affirmation!

    Such a fab way, like you say, to carry your healing powers everywhere!


    Love and light.


  2. Flavia 04.02.2019 at 7:34am #

    What a wonderful, simple idea! Thank you.

  3. Sally Schneider 04.02.2019 at 10:03pm #

    That is VERY cool. It makes me wonder if tattoos aren’t always a sort of touchstone in some ways….reminders….

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